Table Mountain Mother City Gay Life 1
Where do I start talking about finding love? Yet alone in one of the most vibrant and culturally rich cities in Africa? Coming from a much smaller place - Durban, where everyone is laid back and always seem to be on a "Go Slow", I have found the transition to be rather difficult.

Finding Love in the Mother City

Suicide letter
Today I have dressed formally as a boy but unfortunately this is the first and last time you ever see me dressed like this without a soul hanging high in this rope.

Suicide letter

Porn is fake
Before I knew the realities of love and sex, all I had to go on was porn. I was never a porn addict, and I never watched much of it, but hey, we have all had a look at some stage or another. This formed an idea in my head of what gay sex is about. We discover the following myths about gay sex.

7 Realities of Gay Sex: it is not like porn

Finding love - online dating 2
As gay people, we are all at different stages of coming out & acceptance. This makes finding love difficult, as many guys are not giving us what we want. I have read and heard of many people saying: "I am a good-looking guy and quite laid-back. Why is finding love so hard? Why is it so hard for me to find love?" Or the usual, “I got into one of those dating sites and was excited about the prospects of meeting someone. But all I got were guys who were looking for sex, sex, sex and sex disguised as 'love'. Am I missing something?”

The difficulty of finding love in a gay life

Wine glasses on a date
Gay dating is not easy. It is hard to find the right guys out there. We all read about things that we should do on a date. But here are some things that you should definitely NOT do on a date! Hopefully this makes your gay dating easier!

Gay dating: Things not to do on a date

Picture of Austin who came out
Coming out as gay is never easy, even if you are fairly certain that your family will be completely accepting. Here is a coming out story that went well for Austin.

Coming out as gay – Austin

Coming out as gay - letter from Parker (part 1)
A coming out as gay letter by Parker, with the response from his parents. Luckily his parents were both very supportive, without making a big deal about him being gay.

Coming out: a letter from Parker

A mountain, river, green trees and sun set. 1
My coming out story begins in 2011, when I was in 7th grade. Being a middle schooler, who is going to turn 13, I was figuring out my feelings and who I was. I never had a thought about being gay. I always had crushes on girls, and never knew about what was to come.

Coming out as gay – Aaron Stymiest

Priest reading bible - making gay people confused 1
For all my life as far as I could remember, I have grown up with a clear conscious of my sexuality. I fairly and peacefully played with girls around my neighbourhood. Though there were some dudes who would tease me from school, it didn't bother me much. I didn't have a problem with my sexuality, I loved guys, enjoyed the ongoing bouncing of crushes I had from one guy to another round the school and on TV sometimes. It was cool, but then came a change...

Religious woman makes a gay boy confused

Heart with rainbow and gay couple
It is not easy to turn a potential date into a date. Firstly, it is not always easy to tell who is gay, and who might be interested in you. If you are in a crowded place and someone makes eye contact with you, how do you know if it was a mistake or if there was some meaning to it? The best way to let a person know that you are interested is to smile at them and make eye contact.

Dating: How to turn a potential date into a date

Happy New Year picture
It is the end of 2014 and 2015 is soon to start. We usually try to make some New Year's resolutions to improve out lives in the coming year. Here are some resolutions that will add some meaning to your life.

6 New Year’s resolutions adding value to your life

Coming out as gay at Christmas
Christmas is a great time for family and friends to gather and share in the joy of gifts, food and fruitcakes. But perhaps Aunty Angus's fruitcake should not be the only fruitcake being talked about this Christmas. This is a tongue-in-cheek article that may help you with some ideas on how to come out as gay this Christmas.

5 ways to come out as gay for Christmas