It is not easy to turn a potential date into a date. Firstly, it is not always easy to tell who is gay, and who might be interested in you. If you are in a crowded place and someone makes eye contact with you, how do you know if it was a mistake or if there was some meaning to it? It is then even harder to ask someone who you are interested in on a date.
Smile and make eye contact
The best way to let a person know that you are interested is to smile at them and make eye contact. If you see that he is returning the smiles and eye contact, you know that he is interested. No need to feel insecure about whether he is interested or not. Straight guys don’t keep eye contact with strangers for very long.
Introduce yourself
If there is a stranger that is making eye contact, go ahead and introduce yourself. While you might think that you are being weird by approaching some random guy, he will probably just assume you are very friendly. Make some small talk, and see where things go.
Exchange contact details
If you like someone, and would like to perhaps meet them again, make sure to take down their contact details, and give them yours. A cellphone number will suffice – not a Grindr profile name, and probably not a Facebook request unless you have met them a few times before. Don’t be afraid to be the one to ask.
You will also need to actually use the contact number – keeping it in your bedside drawer will not help. Send a message in 1 or 2 days time. Don’t try to wait to see if he will message first – make the first move!
Make a first move
Don’t wait for him to make the first move. What if he is waiting for the same thing. You will both end up thinking that the other is not interested, where perhaps you are.
Invite him for coffee, but set a date
Saying “we should do coffee some time” is not enough. Set a date, time and place where you can both make it. If the plan doesn’t work out, set another date immediately (unless one of you discover that you don’t actually want to meet again).
If it doesn’t work out, don’t give up
Not every guy will be interested in you, and that is fine. Also, some guys might not be brave enough to accept an invitation to go on a date. We are all at different stages of our lives and looking for different things. If it doesn’t work out, accept it and move on. There will be someone else that will come along, and you shouldn’t assume this guy will react the same way as the last guy.
Leave a comment at the bottom if you have any experience to share!