If a guy is physically attracted to other men rather than to girls, does this make him gay? Can someone be straight and attracted to the same sex? The following is from one of our readers:
Ok well, thank you for taking time to read my story.
I’m 20 years old, a student at the NWU Puk. Since I was 7 or 8 years old I was different from my twin brother and my mates from school. Some boys even called me gay. At that stage I didn’t really know the meaning but it bothered me. “Why is he telling me that?” As the years went on and I realised what the term “gay” means, I was so upset, and sad! Because I come out of a serious religious home and my parents have a huge problem with homosexuals. As did I, because they taught me that it’s wrong. When I got in high school I couldn’t see any pretty girls, I only saw the rugby guys that went to the gym and they were so buff and sexy and one specific one shaved his beautiful legs – I could not stop looking at those legs. Hanre was his name.
I tried to convince myself that it is just puberty and I am perfectly straight. Then one afternoon I was searching youtube and came across a video of 2 huge muscled guys kissing in a shower. I was so turned on I wet my pants. As I went through high school I always looked at the guys, not the girls. I fantasized about guys. My last relationship was in grade 7 with a girl. Since then I was never in a relationship. Now that I’m at varsity I’m still looking at the guys. Rual Laubscher is my ultimate crush. He is handsome and muscular and perfect!! There are good looking girls but I don’t notice them.
I hope you can help me with this. Am I gay, or just physically attracted to guys??? Because I don’t see myself in a relationship with guys, but I do see myself doing physical stuff with guys. Please help!