Coming out: a letter from Parker


Here is a coming out letter by Parker (@parkerthediver), with the response from his parents.

Parker wrote:

Mom & Dad,

I have spent the last four years of my life trying my best to make both of you proud. Mom, I know that you fought hard so that you could be here for me & Patrick & Dad. Dad, I know that you work extremely hard every day to keep this family afloat. I respect both of you more than you’ll ever know.

I have recently realised that if I want to be genuinely happy, I need to be honest with both of you. I have known for a few years now that I am in fact gay. I have been so afraid that you guys would be disappointed in me, or think that I was failing you as a son, but I now know that if you are in fact disappointed, that’s on you. I’m not here to live up to anyone else’s expectations. The only expectations that matter to me are the ones that I set for myself. I’ll apologise for anything that I do wrong, but you’ll never hear me apologise for who I am.

I feel like this secret that I’ve been keeping has distanced me from my entire family. I hope that you guys can accept me for who I am, so that we can rebuild the relationships that we once had.

I love you both so much,
Parker

Response from Dad:

Parker, just read your letter. It doesn’t matter to us if you are gay or whatever. I just want you to keep your room clean and be happy. We adore you no matter what. No disappointment here.

Response from Mom:

Hey kiddo. Thanks for the letter. It had to be rough to write. Me and dad love you so much. We made you perfect. If gay is what you are, it’s perfect. I adore you. Thanks for telling us. We are your number one supporters. We got your back jack! I love you kid. Oh by the way, you still have to do chores.

Coming out as gay - letter from Parker (part 1)

Coming out as gay – letter from Parker (part 1)

Coming out as gay - letter from Parker (part 2)

Coming out as gay – letter from Parker (part 2)

Dad's response to coming out letter

Dad’s response to coming out letter

Mom's response to coming out letter

Mom’s response to coming out letter

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